In this day and age one could possibly be forgiven for thinking that most women are open to a one night stand simply for the purpose of pleasure. Unfortunately men and women are not the same when it comes to these kinds of choices and you will find many women who simply will not go there. That is not to say that quite a few women are keen to engage in casual sex with a handsome stranger.
Many women who are around the age of fifty or older generally would not go down the road of a casual roll in the hay due to what this might do to their reputations if it were to come out. Women at this age have usually been brought up with strong values that sex is only about loving each other and some might believe that sex only belongs in the marital bed between married couple.
Whether society likes it or not, there is a double standard when it comes to a woman having casual sex as opposed to a man. A TV character confirmed this truth when telling her daughter that if she were a boy all her mates would be giving her high fives for getting two guys to engage in a threesome with her. Yet, having said that, women are everywhere and some do not give a toss what people think of them if they engage in casual sex. This is a situation where a woman is feeling empowered to make that choice. It comes down to an individual woman’s choice in the end, which is personal and her business alone.
If a woman continually sleeps around, she will be branded as a whore or some such nonsense, however some women simply do not care. The truth of it is not all women have this luxury, some have high powered careers and are well known in public circles and having a reputation as a woman who sleeps around would not do anything good for her reputation in business or personal circles.
In a perfect world and this is not a perfect world, women would have just as much right to have casual sex as a man does. Two consenting adults choosing to spend the night together all in the name of fun does not have the same implications for a man, in the same way it does for a woman. Women who choose not to engage in a casual fling possibly choose not to for many reasons. It is not usually about pride either, pride might have a little to do with it, but it is pretty clear that fear drives most people when they make a decision not to do something that might be harmless fun, but could also have a negative outcome.
Women are aware that they are free to have the same amount of fun as men do. Women also know that they can choose to engage in casual sex, however some women prefer to preserve their reputations and some do not care. They are over all the hype that men are studs and women are whores if both sexes make it habit to have one night stands. In fact many women believe it is their right and it is true that if a more women were empowered in this way, then society just might stop being so judgmental.
In terms of being used, women often are not considering this when they engage in what they believe is a one night stand. Many women are still of the attitude that if you are serious about a guy, then sleeping with him on the first date is a mistake. This is not always the case, but it is how many women think and it is something they believe in. The bottom line here is whether you are a man or a woman, you should feel empowered to go ahead with casual sex and feel good about that, however this is not always possible for women.
It might also be surprising to know that sometimes men choose to not sleep around with different women for the sake of pleasure. Certain men are find out that it is not as satisfying as they once believed it would be. In this day and age, men are becoming more in touch with their feelings and are being encouraged to express what they feel and some men simply do not want a reputation as a Casanova, who loves them and leaves them. Men who are players are not popular with the women who are looking for someone to connect with and build a relationship. Some men simply do not want to be tagged as players.
Some men actually want more important things from women, such as someone they can open up to and someone they can call a close friend and go and talk to when they are in the mood for company. Society is now seeing more men emerging with different attitudes to casual sex. The one night stand will always exist and there will be men and women who engage in this activity and feel empowered to do so. When women and men have a fear of being used, then perhaps a one night stand is not a good idea, perhaps getting to know someone first is better.
A one night stand should be between two people who are clear that it is for one night and it is likely that it won’t happen again. If that is understood, then the fear of being used should not be there and if a woman or man is feeling like this, then it is probably a good idea not to go there. When it comes to empowered women choosing casual sex then that is great for them, however it is not likely that all women will come around to this type of thinking. Society in its wisdom will just not allow it.